January 2012 Newsletter
January 30, 2012
Blowing your Stereotypes: Being “not like you”
This experiment is designed mainly to be used in romantic partnerships and family relationships.
This involves identifying or becoming aware of what others complain about, get frustrated or upset with you about, or get down on you for.
For example:
- Are you typically or always late?
- Do you rarely clean up the papers on your desk?
- Do you rarely or almost never make the bed?
- Are you the one who overspends?
- Do you rarely think about the doctor’s or dentist appointments and schedule them for the kids?
- Do you usually cook or rarely cook?
- Are you the one who almost never does or folds the laundry?
- Do you typically initiate or press for sex?
- Do you usually avoid sex?
- Do you usually point out what’s wrong in the situation?
- Or are you the eternal optimist, making the case for how things are okay or are going to be okay?
For the next week, try this experiment. Do something that’s “not like you.” Blow the other person’s or others’ stereotypes and expectations about you by doing something “out of character.” [Nothing mean or dangerous, just new and unlike your usual patterns. Pleasantly surprise the people in your life who know you best.]
I think you’ll be surprised at the results.
Bill O’Hanlon December 2011
When the Marriage Is Over
January 30, 2012
Title: When the Marriage Is Over
Date/Time: Monday, February 13th 7:00pm – 8:30pm
Location: Jefferson Street Counseling and Consulting
Description: Free workshop presented by Susan Reuling Furness, LCPC, LMFT
When a marriage ends, you experience a smorgasbord of emotion: hurt, sadness, anger, discouragement, disenchantment, and disorientation. For some it feels like going crazy. Join us to learn healthy ways to manage these (and other) predictable emotions. Gather hope as you begin moving on.
Meet Our New Therapist
December 6, 2010
Shirley O’Neil M.Ed, has recently joined Jefferson Street Counseling and Consulting. Shirley has a background in both mental health counseling as well as school counseling. She spent 7 years as a school counselor, and has recently opened her own practice. She is the mother of 5 children ages 24 to 14, and is active in the Boise community. Shirley’s experience is broad with an emphasis on children and adolescents. Shirley welcomes new clients.
Monthly Conversation: Your Survival Guide to Separation & Divorce
January 28, 2010
Title: Your Survival Guide to Separation & Divorce
Location: jefferson Street Counseling & Consulting
Description: Date: February 8, 2010
Time: 7:00 – 8:30pm
Separation and divorce are among the most stressful life events adults and children ever face. They often entail additional major changes with finances, housing, school, childcare and work. Dr. Hill will review many critical elements for creating your own divorce “survival guide” as a single adult or parent.
presented by Stephen H. Hill, Ph.D.
Start Time: 7:00pm
Date: 2010-02-08
Healthy Parenting Even During The Holidays
December 14, 2009
Title: Healthy Parenting Even During The Holidays
Location: Jefferson Street Counseling & Consulting
Description: Date:12/14/09
Time: 7:00 – 8:30pm
Being healthy requires that you first take care of yourself. As a parent you may need to set limits and boundaries so there is just a little time for you. Limits and boundaries also help children become self-reliant in a very self indulgent world (as Stephen Glenn said in his book) Self indulgence and self denial seem to be the theme for the holidays unless you can teach limits and boundaries.
presented by Lorn H. Adkins, LMFT, LCPC
Start Time: 7:00pm
Date: 2009-12-14
May I Have Your Attention Please
December 14, 2009
Title: May I Have Your Attention Please
Location: Jefferson Street Counseling & Consulting
Description: Date: January 11, 2010
Time: 7:00 – 8:30pm
Help! Everyone wants my attention. There are so many distractions, I can’t think straight. At this exact moment, you are reading this program description.Will you finish it? Will you reserve a seat for this program before your attention is diverted and you forget? More questions: Where was your attention this morning? Were you thinking about football scores or your terribly insensitive husband? Where were you while you when your daughter was talking about math? Research confirms this – we can only focus on (pay attention to ) one thing at a time. Those who believe multi-tasking works are both fooling and cheating themselves. Learn to choose what receives your attention . . . how to intentionally focus. Susan’s program will add to your ability to learn, find satisfaction, make better use of your time. Take control of this most elementary thinking process – your attention. presented by Susan Reuling Furness, LMFT, LCPC
Start Time: 7:00pm
Date: 2010-01-11
November 2009 Newsletter
November 2, 2009
Could it be Bipolar? What does Bipolar Really Mean?
by Stephen H. Hill, Ph.D.
Many with Bipolar Depression spend years of frustration receiving the wrong advice and the wrong medicines for this very treatable type of depression. Bipolar depression can also be surprisingly common in its milder forms—perhaps representing 25% of depression cases in one study. Read more